**All of Us**
Sunday, August 31, 2025
Think On
Saturday, August 30, 2025
30th August 2025 - beginnings
The family has arrived for the wedding. This photo was sent to Tom to say we had arrived safely and met up in a cafe with the London contingency and after brunch all ready to be taxied by Andrew to the cottage. Andrew is a brilliant godsend to the family and we should all thank my daughter for bringing him into the fold. There she sits as smug as a dowager over her little brood! ;) There had been a panic over ties for the boys but Andrew managed to rustle up a couple for them
The cottage was flawless, less so after we had left. It gleamed the impersonal touch of an interior decorator, colours matched and a truly splendid kitchen. Bedrooms were sorted with little fuss and everyone went off to make themselves beautiful. Lucien, you can just see his head popping up, the 'significant other' of Matilda was a little shy about attending a family wedding but soon melded in well. Short biography: did maths at Cambridge but his heart is set on drumming with his band.
Lucien and Matilda. They make a lovely couple ;) |
Lillie took the mirror out of my room, Ben steamed his clothes in my room, Ben of course is the fashionista of the family, luckily it did not take me too long to change.
My room |
A totally tidy kitchen |
Ellie's parents had spent a lot of money on this wedding for their only daughter and they were a lovely couple, Imogen and Michael. It had only struck me that this was the beginning of two families coming together and that I would have to think it all out.
Our lovely Tom who was making such a success of his life and also marrying a very beautiful girl, a match seemingly made in heaven for the two of them.
Although the two had gone through a legal marriage at a registry office they also renewed their vows at the house in the Library Room, choice of which I will explain later. The ceremony had been taken by a humanist celebrant and Tom was in tears he was so happy. After a lot of vows given by both of them we were shepherded by the two photographers, here and there for wedding photos. And, until Ellie gives the word the photos cannot be seen on social media.
So to return to the family and the cottage. There were half a dozen cottages round the close, made out of the exterior buildings, of this I think 18th century house, we had the laundry block.
All dressed up |
Early next morning and I heard a hawk in the sky, think it was a sparrowhawk |
There is a part two but it needs thinking about.......
Wednesday, August 27, 2025
27th August 2025
Marriage: Tomorrow we are off down to Shropshire to celebrate the wedding of Eleanor Daisy Riddy and Thomas Nicholas Opper Cunnane. Tom of course carrying his grandfather's name forward, along with the Opper family in Switzerland and his father's name, who has slipped out of the picture over the years. We have rooms at Iscoyde Park (Sounds posh) and Andrew will pick up the three from London from the railway station at Whitchurch there.
An engagement photo of Nick and myself |
The couple are totally in love, Tom is so sweet around Ellie and of course it stirs memories from me when I remember his grandfather and how much we were in love as well.
Nick was taken so abruptly in a car accident when my daughter was about 3 years old. The blackest of griefs the night my father-in-law came to my hotel bedroom and said that Nick had died at the hospital. He went back to comfort Lotta and I faced the night wondering how would I go on living. But I made the decision to go on because I had a young daughter to support.
Nick had been educated in England, a Canterbury school I believe and then Oxford, he had hardly started out on life when it was cut down abruptly by a silly woman turning out of a driveway without checking that a car was coming.
Nick had been to see his best friend David in Oxford. David was an expert on concrete and Nick was selling some sort of early type computing machines. I was just trying to remember where we lived at the time. It was Frimley, near Woking. My father-in-law had found us living in a wretched bungalow which dripped with condensation and was icily cold and he had given us a deposit for the Frimley house.
Nick and David |
As my family was so at odds with each other, I more or less got adopted by the Opper family, we shared the tragedy of Nick's death, Lotta's youngest son. And so in the holiday weeks Karen and I would go over to Blonay and stay there.
Nick and I had happy times of course, we were going to buy one of those self assembly houses we had seen at an exhibition and build a home. We went up to Oxford for parties and meeting David.
This was the time when British families working overseas sent their children to England to be educated, Nick had scars on his back where he had been beaten at school, he was dyslexic which obviously did not help. The youngest of four children he was the baby of the family. His sister Annabel, a Montessori teacher would come over to England and take him out to tea whilst he boarded at school. His other sister Sylvia, taught in Hong Kong and wrote, with someone else a book on Piaget and his teachings. Whilst Mike the eldest had emigrated to Canada, to become a boxer, than a lumberjack.
All this I write down for my family and for myself of course. And maybe even for Taylor Swift, who announced her engagement to someone yesterday;)
Marriage and love is still not dead!
Ellie and Tom |
Rebecca Solnit - Meditations in an emergency. As always there is an edit ;)
Monday, August 25, 2025
25th August 2025
Sunday's Trip: After an early lunch we took off for the Bridestones. It was an immensely long drive up to the moors, but apparently Andrew had walked it! The Bridestones is a popular visiting place for locals and there was already a family using a camping stove for their picnic. A short trek up to the stones and we admired that enormous landscape of moor and sky, only broken by this outcrop of stones, though further away there was a much smaller outcrop. In the far distance Stoodley Pike and turning you could see the wind turbines turning gently.
I find the stones ugly, their rounded shapes rather frightening. There is no evidence of them being special in the Neolithic age, but then how do we know. They remind you of the Cornish tors. The stones are a mill stone grit, named for their use as milling stones, you could see tiny flecks of silver in the stone. Reading Taylor (I will give the reference at the end)
Taylor draws the same conclusion as I do about the ugliness of the weaver's cottages which have been built from this stone, he calls it a carboniferous sandstone, which helps towards the grimy blackness of them. But as he says they are interesting because of the rows of mullioned windows that provide the light for weaving in the cottages. Also it is impossible to clean the soot from the stone. These cottages are a stark reminder of when the industrialised looms and great mills came into force and the independent weavers were forced down from their homes in the valleys into the mills to work for a wage.
We drove back down to Hebden Bridge as the next place to visit was Salts Mill, and all roads lead out of this town. They had changed the Hockney exhibition around also at Salt Mill. A display of flowers in different vases and of course his French House. Here I must say I do not like acrylics, their brightness is too childlike but I am pleased that Hockney is making a living out of his painting and will not die in penurious circumstances as so many artists do.
Tea and cakes in the restaurant, my daughter wouldn't go out if there wasn't cake at the end of the outing.
The book by Alex Clifton Taylor on The Pattern of English Building, is a genuinely intelligent book of how building materials were used in this country. Years of work has gone into compiling this information. And so co-pilot on my right hand side, please, please go away and take AI with you. The human brain works brilliantly without you!
Saturday, August 23, 2025
23rd August 2025 - Bradford's Odeon cinema
Bradford's restoration of the Odeon Cinema.
They like it big down North. No I am not being smutty, I am talking about the revitalisation of the Odeon Cinema in Bradford. Which as you should know is this year's City of Culture. Probably this is of only interest to Yorkshire people but it is a history worth documenting.
Our Andrew's close friend is an architect and Adam was instrumental with his London firm of architects restoring this over the top but magnificent building started in the 1930s. They are a conservationist firm and restore old buildings in as far as one is able to.
The day of the cinema seemed over after the introduction of television and then Netflix, but they have struggled on, changing their format to suit the smaller audience. Still they stand like forlorn ghosts in towns but stripped of their usefulness till someone comes along and alters them.
This video shows how bad it was to start with, the enormous amount of work cost a great deal, but it was only through the dedication of Bradford people wanting the old building to remain that made it possible for the money to be found.
Bradford Live: how Tim Ronalds Architects helped residents save their historic cinema and turn it into a 3,800-capacity music venue | Building Study | Building Design This article gives a full history of the work done, I have the pdf but cannot upload the link, but if you want to subscribe free for the article you can.
In my heart I think there is a quiet revival going on in this part of the land as the people migrate from London, or indeed return to their roots.
Friday, August 22, 2025
22nd August 2025 - Mills I have known
Coggeshall Abbey's mill in Essex |
Chelmer Mill by the Chelmer and navigation river in Essex John Constable's Flatford Mill |
Olga Wisinger-Florian (1844–1926), Mill at Goisern (1880), |
Thursday, August 21, 2025
21st August 2025
We went out last night for a birthday meal, it was Karen's birthday and we went to 'Ginger Nut' an Asian restaurant. Good food, good company, though the restaurant was quiet. The restaurant is situated in Water Street, a sort of 'genuine' touristy interesting part of Tod. The road is paved with cobbles, recently taken up and then re-laid. Why Water Street? Could be the river on the right side, notice the interesting little white add-on, could it be an old 'flush loo' into the river. You can still see some of these old Georgian makeshift boxes outside the Georgian houses of Bath at the back of the houses. But here I am only guessing.
Water Street - @ David Dixon Geograph |
Sunday we are off to Saltaire with a quick visit on the way to the Bride stones and then the wedding feast on Thursday.
I don't know what you make of this but the sadness of starvation in Gaza is underlined by the Plasticine Man who had written on his T-shirt Plasticine Action instead of Palestine Action, which is an illegal use of words and pertains to being a terrorist.
Tuesday, August 19, 2025
Notes and thoughts
Two thoughts spring to mind this morning. The first is the history of those two fish items that Leni Heaton gave me. She died in Switzerland a few years back at over a hundred years of age. She lived in a sweet little chalet at the end of an unmade road but at the top the little train that went up the Les Pleiade mountain would trundle past as you sat on the seat at the little stop. Blonay's large old chalet was also there. Leni will sink away from memories and yet she must had so many. She was Jewish and German for a start and I once came across a paper on the internet of her family, I think the silver slices come from Iran but maybe they came from the time she had too flee the war and were part of her family treasures. I know she was a dancer, and a modern one at that, her name seems to come up in the Laban School of Dancing. There is a dramatic moment in her life in Iran. Which was when her husband tried to kill her by taking her out into the desert and leaving her there.
1) the story of being left in the desert to die. Apparently her husband had a brain tumour which made him act strangely and he died soon after.
2) Leni was a translator in the 1940s and working in Iran at the time of The Tehran Conference in 1941
MovementDanceDramaAutumn2020Online.pdf
Young people performing a rhythmic dance at Laban's Choreographic Institute in Berlin-Grunewald (1929)*******************************
The Blizzard of the world has crossed the threshold and it has overturned the order of the soul
What is the second thought, it is to do with music and the apocalypse and probably was sparked by this blog written in 2007. Firstly the music, Leonard Cohen's 'The Future' you can listen here......
Bleak and miserable the song goes on, just like Bob Dylan's
it's a 'Hard Rain A-gonna Fall'.
Doom and gloom, apocalyptic. Are they the interpreters of our society in song and of course poetry, or do they bring feelings of despair so that in the end we do not have the will to fight.
Well plucky, and I have to say it, little Zelensky, with his bold band of EU supporters behind him standing up to the forces of Trump and Putin tells a different tale, as does Rebecca Solnit in her book of 'Hope in the Dark' - The Untold History of People Power'. And are we not seeing people power expressed all over the world, whether in Israel calling out Netanyahu and his wicked starvation of the people of Palestine, or in America, and the rest of the world, calling out the fascist right appearing on the stage of their USA government.
So let us take this ying and yang, the duality of everything, and watch as it passes by. Painful it maybe but doesn't history always change? Maybe not in our lifetimes but it does eventually.
Monday, August 18, 2025
18th October 2025 - recording today
Sunday, August 17, 2025
17th August 2025
The Tower of Babel by Pieter Bruegel The Elder 1563 |
I went to another meeting at the Folklore Centre yesterday, it was given by Holly Elsdon. 'Red Threads and Rabbit holes ' . A very complete dive into feminism and theories. The sort of stuff you pick-up on all the social media. The young being influencers and spouting their latest beliefs in a whole set of phenomena that attracts them. The people who see great world forces taking over and becoming dominant and the various organisations set up to moderate world affairs such as the UN and Unesco, as some sort of evil overlords. And not forgetting feminism either which runs as a thread through out.
The advent of the internet has spawned this horror of everyone having a say in whatever matter that happens to be in the news. We are all guilty (myself included). I suppose it comes from curious minds, but then, some minds are pretty weird ;) Free speech and democracy has a lot to answer for. We need more philosopher's out there but not necessarily algorithm's sorting out our muddled minds.
It is as if storytelling has to be told not in the fables and myths of old history but in the current world happenings. For me such things drift through like the computer cloud that doesn't exist in reality but is functioning up there in the sky.
I went off the concept of feminism years ago, perhaps I should not have. But it was Germaine Greer and her exposure of parts of her anatomy, that should not really be on public display. I obviously believe in the equality of women and the need to battle such horror as the misogynist Tate, who appears to be colouring the minds of young teenage boys, wrapped up in their bedrooms in the dark of the night taking in his poisonous words. It is definitely not a battle between the sexes for dominance only equality and understanding.
My two feminist authors I do read for their intellectual views are Naomi Klein and Rebecca Solnit. But they do not write under the heading of feminism but only after causes. That to me is the difference. By not setting up a battlefield we achieve understanding at a slower pace. All the horrors that exist in the world, have and will exist sadly, we are Homo Sapiens after all.