The car crash robbed me of a much loved husband, a father for Karen and the youngest son of Con and Lotta Opper. Of course such things happen to many people but it has a profound effect individually.
It is something I never talk about, the grief at the time was unbearable. Nick had called in at Oxford to meet an old friend, David Double and was driving back home, which was Woking in Surrey at that time.
After the car crash. Down to a foolish women pulling out without looking to see if there was any one coming, Nick was taken to a Nottingham hospital. Con and Lotta came over immediately and for a fortnight till his death, he was unconscious, the prognosis was that he would have probably been confined to a wheelchair for the rest of his life. I remember Lotta saying that perhaps his death was the best outcome for him, for me that was impossible, but death settled the matter.
His death hung over the family for years, his three siblings, all older were also traumatised as well. Annabel his sister would have often take on a mothering role and visited him when he was at school or later at Oxford, taking him out for a meal. For, like most families that worked overseas all the children were educated in England at boarding schools.
The Swiss connection for my family has always been strong, each year my daughter, Karen and I would spend a summer month in Switzerland, Con always good with both Karen and Marc, Annabel's boy, would keep us all entertained whilst Lotta would keep the peace with two youngsters rushing around.
Marc had been brought up in Iran on an oil camp in the desert, so he was a bit rough with his younger cousin Karen. With his farming friend they would wander around with a knife and air gun. I cannot but look at a picture of him now, overweight and a successful business behind him and giggle at the transformation.
Marc had an impetuous nature as a boy. Once while sitting at a Swiss restaurant he put his hand on the hot plate in the centre of the table and burnt his hand badly. He would push through crowds without thinking and there would be a lot of crossness at his behaviour and us apologising as we followed him behind.
This is for my grandchildren, especially Lillie, who bought me a book to record my history with the Opper family. Mostly I think photos tell a better story than words.
At Gruyere, a family annual Canadian side of the family in snowy Switzerland rather than Canada