Well beautiful as Yorkshire is, there is another side to it of course. I picked this up on F/B this morning, a Channel 4 news clip in Teeside. The young reporter is a friend of my eldest grandson Tom, and highlights in his first report the fact that there is not enough work for the young in the North. And that really we don't spend enough money in keeping our young out of trouble. Amongst all the angst of the coming election it is well to remember that actually nothing much happens in the lives of ordinary people.
It rained probably all last night and the ground has had a good soaking, brilliant sunshine as I took Lucy down the lane with the swallows wheeling overhead.
A mixed week, my ex-husband died a few days ago, and my son is having to arrange the funeral and all the myriad of things that needs doing. He was a good son, visiting his father in hospital, and my daughter Karen and I will go down for the scattering of the ashes.
I'm so sorry for the loss of your ex. It's nice that you'll be there to support your son. xo
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Thank you. It is a difficult time for him coping, though he is old enough;) but I still see him as a child.
DeleteThe death of a former spouse must be a unique sort of jolt--memories of a hopeful beginning, the dissolution of harmony, a shared link of children and grand children. I suppose unless there has been dreadful enmity one does the gracious things that help to ease the situation--as you are doing.
ReplyDeleteWe were married about 28 years but drifted into silence in the end. I shared archaeology with him and my feelings at the present are neutral. I do believe that our children should be spared the turmoil of anger that results in a divorce.
DeleteI cannot improve on Sharon's comment, but even though your ways parted, the loss of an ex-husband will always bring some returning memories of when you were together, before his redeeming features went on the back boiler of life. I don't know how I would feel if I heard my ex had died - he went out of my life 35 years ago and it is if he never existed.
ReplyDeleteI think there is always residual guilt when you take the path of separation. I stayed until my son left home and he understood my motives completely. Met Paul, who as you know is a very gentle person and ended happily at a late stage of my life.
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